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First business

Wearing the right dress can be the first business flirtation between an actress and designer, too. A bit like a wink across the room. In 2011, 14-year-old Hailee Steinfeld was nominated for an Oscar for True Grit. Seizing a style moment, she wore a striking fuchsia-, tangerine-, and black-striped Prada dress with a flounced hem from the spring collection to the SAG Awards that year. The chic choice paid off. Within two months, Steinfeld became the new face of Miu Miu, Prada’s edgier little-sister label. Steinfeld was just spotted front row at the Chanel couture show in Paris, so stay tuned.

Jewelers, of course, must deliver never-before-seen sparklers too. Many stylists plunder the archives of a house like Cartier or Van Cleef & Arpels for statement pieces with heritage and vintage caché. “Finding the new unseen look and style in a piece of jewelry is also in top demand”, says Beverly Hills jeweler Martin Katz, who outfitted Jodie Foster, Sally Field, and Helen Hunt with lush diamond bracelets and bold earrings at this year’s Globes. “When I come up with unusual rings or bracelets that have not been seen on the red carpet before, stylists grab them immediately”.

Devotees

Decoded Fashion and CFDA Host Fashion Hackathon.

On Super Bowl Sunday, when most New Yorkers were prepping for the big game, hundreds of fashion and technology devotees were going head to head.

Decoded Fashion, a company aiming to connect the fashion and technology worlds, and the Council of Fashion Designers of America hosted something called a “fashion hackathon,” at the Alley, an event space on Seventh Avenue. An assembly of programmers, developers and graphic designers were given 24 hours to create an app or start-up idea to be pitched to a cast of judges (this reporter included). Five semifinalists were chosen to complete their pitch by the last day of New York Fashion Week, Feb. 14. Judges were instructed to identify apps or solutions that could be useful to the fashion industry and support the CFDA mission of considering the future. Originality of ideas, user interface and design, and overall technical achievement during a day of coding were also weighed.

Fashion may be an unlikely subject for tech geeks, but the event drew a large number of participants, as well as the support of the CFDA (including the designer Zac Posen); Condé Nast; and new-media fixtures like Dennis Crowley of Foursquare, Dirk Standen, editor-in-chief of Style.com, and Valentine Uhovski of Tumblr.

“I’ve been to a lot of hackathons, two to three hundred people, but this is the first hackathon I’ve been to that attracted 600 people, half of them women,” said Drew Schutte, the manager for emerging technologies at Condé Nast.

Typically

Prada Goes With Her Feelings.

A fashion show typically lasts about 10 minutes, and that’s just enough time to either be suicidal from boredom or convinced you haven’t even begun to live, since you never thought of wearing a black party dress over the gray cardigan you leave at the office because you, Ms. Mouse, are always cold.
Miuccia Prada, like Rei Kawakubo and Phoebe Philo, established that there is a world of difference between men and women as designers. One difference is that a woman will readily use her feelings to build a collection instead of an outside source, like the work of an artist.

Karl Lagerfeld might be clever at loading up the pop cultural references at Fendi, and obscuring the evidence in a dizzy pile of fun furs, but you can’t imagine him trying to give a shape and texture to female repression. He’d rather stick a pen in his eye, but that’s just a guess.

More than 20 years after the sex fantasies of Gianni Versace and Jean Paul Gaultier, studded leather looks like an adolescent rash, it’s so commonplace and down-market.

No wonder Donatella Versace, in her show on Friday, made the spikes in collars and dresses four inches long. There’s no edge left to the fantasy. But male designers have never been good at the kind of fashion known as “ugly chic.” That emotional territory belongs to female designers. Actually, the territory belongs to just one.

“It’s everything I like,” said Ms. Prada before her show, referring to the done-undone quality of the outfits, with tweed or beaded chiffon dresses worn carelessly over drab cardigans, the garments left partly unbuttoned so they fell off shoulders. The midcentury silhouette, with deep fur cuffs on hard leather jackets and gray flannel suits, was another Prada favorite. The gloomy set and the wet “Les Miserables” hair seemed mostly a Prada ploy, and didn’t really add anything.

As the models lined up for the show, Ms. Prada said: “I’m obsessed with this problem — that everything is forbidden. There is so much control that you can’t abandon yourself to anything.” If Ms. Prada, who turns 64 this year, is frustrated, she shouldn’t be too concerned. A generation of women has been peculiarly susceptible to her fashion: they feel exactly what she feels. So, even if this was not the most challenging Prada collection, its naïve, almost do-it-yourself glamour still got under your skin.

Married

Dating Girl: Married co-workers should cool romance, Josey Vogels advises.

Dear Dating Girl: This past fall, a co-worker and I became involved in a passionate affair. We are both (unhappily) married, she with two young children, and I with a baby on the way.
We fell in love with each other and planned to leave our spouses in order to be together. We confessed our infidelity to our spouses; she left her husband and I made preparations to leave my wife. She then changed her mind and decided to return to her husband. She said she couldn’t get past the fact that I had a baby on the way. She felt it was my duty to be a fulltime father to my child and she feared that if we gave our relationship a chance and it didn’t work out, I would resent her for separating me from my child.
We have tried to maintain a friendship without any physical contact, but it has been frustrating. We both feel we’re meant to be together but, because of the baby, she refuses to let this happen. How can I convince her that we should take this opportunity for happiness and give our relationship a chance. How can she admit to feeling that we belong together yet be unwilling to give it a chance?
Not What I Was Expecting
Dear Not: She has explained why she can’t give it a chance: Despite what her heart is telling her, her head is thinking about your child and your role as a father. And I’m going with her head on this one.
Despite your feelings now, having a baby will change the view entirely. And you have no way of predicting what feelings of responsibility it will drum up.
Why not take this woman’s advice and wait to see how things are after baby is born. Even if you can’t offer emotional support, your wife will need your physical support during the first few months. I think you owe at least that to her.
Also, I’d suggest you not only limit your physical contact but also your platonic contact with the other woman through this period. Once things settle into a routine, you and this woman can revisit your situations.
If you are meant to be together, it will eventually work out.
Dear Dating Girl: I have a close girlfriend who is going through a bitter divorce. The other day, a mutual male friend of ours told me he was going to ask this girlfriend out. I think this is a terrible idea because a) my girlfriend isn’t ready to date and b) it’s going to make things really awkward between the three of us if they start dating or even worse, if he asks and she shoots him down.
He got angry at me when I expressed all of this to him and told me to mind my own business. I think this is my business, don’t you? He hasn’t called me since this happened and I’m not sure what to do. I don’t feel the need to apologize. If anything, I think he’s being unreasonable and should apologize to me. What do you think?
Tricky Business
Dear Tricky: And here you were so worried about the fact that him asking your girlfriend out would make things awkward between the three of you. Now, one friend isn’t talking to you and the other doesn’t know that you’re making decisions about her life.
If your girlfriend isn’t ready to date, I’m sure she is capable of letting this guy know. You’re her friend, not her protector. And yes, I do think you should apologize. Tell your male friend that were just feeling protective of your girlfriend. You can’t stop love just because it makes the three of you going to the movies together uncomfortable.