Dating Survey

Dating Survey Guy Speaks, Defends Himself Against Creepiness.

Last week, the dating “mistake” that had the Internet cluck-clucking in joyful schadenfreude was the survey sent by a “24-year-old finance guy” to one of his dates. Deadspin called it “creepy.” But now the survey creator, who gave us permission to use his full name, Michael Stolar, is sharing his side of the story.

Stolar’s practice of surveying his dates on his own date performance landed at Deadspin after a woman forwarded it on to Deadspin, and while she did not fill out the survey, she did pass on her review of him: he was “overall moderately attractive” and “a little socially inept…[not] too creepy, just the type of guy who overanalyzes every detail and feels completely awkward in the majority of social situations. It didn’t seem like he got out much.” This little story of a man, a woman, and the aftermath of their four dates went on to be picked up elsewhere, because, as we wrote at the time, “Everything We Do While Dating Is Creepy and Potentially Viral,” and Stolar’s survey fit the bill perfectly. Supposedly “creepy” actions, check. “Finance guy,” a/k/a guy with a career we can hate, check. Embarrassing public disclosure of that which had been intended as private, check. Opportunity for mockery of someone else’s presumed incompetence in the field of dating, which makes the rest of us creeps feel so much better about ourselves, double check. But that’s never the full story.

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