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Stolar emailed The Atlantic Wire the screengrabbed image above as proof that he is the survey sender in question. Of the email, he says, “As you can see it is dripping in sarcasm and I had to apologize in it for fear of coming off as patronizing.” He also expressed his surprise that the story was presented in such “a negative fashion” on Deadspin, and then picked up and spun more wildly at each additional venue. “As the story grew I got a promotion each time it was picked up by a new outlet,” he writes. “It peaked with TIME Business comparing me to Gordon Gecko and the guy from American Psycho. Unreal, right? Considering I don’t work in equity finance and am not nearly approaching the neuroticism of Patrick Bateman (alright maybe true on this one).”

The Time piece to which he refers is titled “The Creepy Dudes of Wall Street: Are Finance Guys Losing Their Mojo on the Dating Scene, Too?” going on to detail the “jaw-dropping tale of Wall Street prattishness” of our survey-giver. Which is what everyone wants to read, right? But what if the survey, which asks questions like “Mike is very self-conscious about his hair, does he have reason to be?” and “How are Mike’s conversation skills? He didn’t talk about himself the whole night…did he?” was not actually serious and was, in fact, a tongue-in-cheek method of seeing who shares his sense of humor and who doesn’t? Mike says it’s also something of an attempt to turn “social norms” on their head. Stolar says he’s sent his survey to six former dates, and has received two responses. “While dating you’re forced to put on all types of fronts and be this very generic person to attempt to garner some attraction. It’s unbearable,” he writes us. “The survey was created to filter out un-date-able women (those, like my date, who do not find it funny), versus women with a sense of humor similar to mine. There’s also the commentary on communication. She and I went on four dates, solely because we thought the other one was interested. In reality neither of us were interested. Why can’t we ask questions like those in my survey? Why do you get labeled as socially inept when you confront an issue or ask for information instead of skirting around it? I could write for pages about all the things wrong and biased with the articles about this stupid, albeit it well written, survey,” he continues. A few of them…